Black and white dating issues
And in the words of Mama Toni Morrison, “Thin love ain’t love at all.” I absolutely stand with Mason’s demand that whites (and I’d add other people of color) stop loving us thinly.It is why, while I don’t object to interracial dating, I would require any non-Black person I date to be anti-racist, to do more than hint at not being racist or being “colorblind.” Author extraordinaire Marlon James does an excellent job of breaking down the difference between being non-racist and being anti-racist here; get into it.If you are a Black person sleeping with a non-Black person who refuses to call Trump the insufferable bigot that he is, or a non-Black person who petitions that #alllivesmatter or #bluelivesmatter as a retort to the current Black struggle for human rights, you are sleeping with the enemy—or in the least someone who is an enemy of Black progress. Black folks, stop having sex with non-Black people who refuse to see you fully.Is calling non-Black people who sleep with Black people but who do not stand up for causes that support Black lives extreme? Black people are standing up and demanding to be seen, and to matter, in ways I have read about in history books, but have never experienced in my lifetime.Whether we are talking about #themovementforblacklives or #sayhername, as a community we are requiring that our full humanity not only be recognized, but that safe spaces be created for the expression of that full humanity—whether good, bad, or ugly.Don’t use your voice to tell Black folk how beautiful they are if you can’t also use that voice to champion our cause of Black lives mattering.Otherwise, non-Black people dating and mating with Black people are showing us that they can only commit to loving parts of us, but not all of us.
We want to truly believe that in 2016, we are a post-racial nation.PDF format which can be viewed on most computers, laptops, tablets, and smartphones.