Speed dating for doctors
Many have grown accustomed to getting what they want when they want it and aren’t about to settle now. Singles in the area are overwhelmed by couples, making their situation seem all the more, shall we say, desperate? “When you speak to women they may think that that’s true,” says Debra L’Heureux of My Top Matchmaker matchmaking service. It’s just that the gentlemen are on the golf course or playing tennis or boating and they’re just not coming in contact with the right gentlemen.” Well, that sounds reasonable.As a well-heeled bon vivant, Eddy meets plenty of men, but so far none have had that adventurous spirit she’s looking for. Statistics show that the ratio of women to men in Lee and Collier counties is approximately 51 to 49 percent. And those statistics don’t break down single women of a certain age to their male counterparts.(Insert gasp here.) “Age is a challenge, and I don’t know why,” Simmons says. Are they broken from former relationships and think that if they go younger they’re going to have better success? When you’ve been married for 30 years, that happens.
“It turns out he had met—and slept with—this other woman the night before,” Schantz says.
“So, it was our first date and their second.” And while that seems to suggest the women of Southwest Florida should lower their expectations, the opposite is true. If you don’t have time to call me, you don’t have time for a relationship,” she says.
“Men don’t have to pursue women anymore because women are chasing them all over the place,” says Joanna Simmons*, a 60-year-old widow who moved to the area seven years ago from Michigan and bemoans the use of texting in the dating arena. But while the phrase “Beggars can’t be choosers” rolls off the tongue easily, the women of Southwest Florida are definitely not beggars. Worse yet, Naples is a very married town.” And there’s the rub.
Now they’re at a place in their lives where they recognize they need a man who can keep up with them—both emotionally and financially.
For some, if guys don’t have the wherewithal, there’s a serious hesitation to even bother. “Some of these men have split their fortunes—sometimes multiple times,” Simmons says with an understanding tone.“He said, ‘Not really.’ After being pushed, he came back with, ‘Well, Easter Island.’ ‘Well, that’s interesting,’ I said. I never left the airport.’ “It turned out he was only interested in becoming part of the top 5 percent of a frequent flier top-tier program. Just flew from place to place building points,” Ottenstein adds.