Interracial dating and marriages with indians
Elephant Beach on India’s Andaman Islands was not where I thought I would have to justify my life choices.
Yet, there I was, feet dipped in clear water, staring into the horizon, trying to convince two middle-aged women whom I did not know that the man I was with was indeed my husband.
Ketki Pradhan, a French teacher in Pondicherry, told me about the time she was holding her German boyfriend’s hand when a group of men started making vulgar gestures.
“One of them grabbed my other hand and held it very tightly for a few seconds, and ran away,” Pradhan recalled.
Our relationship to social mores are like a fish's to water--hard to know that one is wet since one is immersed in it.
At one point, we broke up because we'd been dating quite some time and I had even moved to L. to be with him and he still hadn't told the family.
Such attitudes towards mixed-race couples are just another expression of the intolerance that won’t countenance Hindu women marrying Muslim men.
And a mixed-race couple in which one person is black often brings out the worst kind of racism.
Chris, her American boyfriend, had accompanied her.Then the other woman, who had remained silent until then, asked me for proof. When many Indians see one of their women with a man of a different race, they make assumptions, and offer unsolicited advice.An Indian woman who has got a white man must be enlightened, even by complete strangers.One day when walking on a street in Pune, Neha’s hometown, a biker slowed down near the couple and almost hit her. She said she sensed a mix of repressed fury and lust in the man’s tone, when he hissed back: “I will f*** you.” To many Indians, the idea of a mixed-race couple is alien, repulsive even.
Nicholas Chevaillier, my friend Aarya’s French-American husband, has been asked more than once in India where and how he “picked up” the woman he was with.
Back when my husband and I were dating, I had no comprehension of how serious of an impact dating an American woman would have on his family.